I was recently invited to a business networking event where the speaker was a web designer. He gave a wonderful talk about how to optimize a website for marketing. I decided after the event I would reach out to him and wrote down his website address. The last thing I expected to see was a “coming soon” sign when I typed in the address to his website.
Why would someone who is poising themselves as a website expert to a room full of hot prospects not have a stellar website of his own? There could be a myriad of reasons, but my guess is he is so focused on other aspects of his business, (like getting more clients),his last thought was about his own web presence. Can you relate? I know I can.
Sometimes we get so caught up in what we want, we overlook some of the small actions we can take to move us towards our desire. Very few things happen overnight. It’s our daily actions, habits, and commitments that over time create the results we’re after. When we don’t align our “doing” with our “wanting,” we create a mismatch in the alignment of our desires.
Let me illustrate this further with an example from my dog, Brody. One of his favorite pastimes is sitting by the pantry door begging for a bone. Sometimes his desire is so strong, he finds a clever way to lure me to the kitchen. Between the barks and dancing I hand him a bone. Instead of a look of adoration, I get a look of disgust. “That old thing???” he says to me through his glare. So, I hand him a second bone. Same disgusted reaction. Finally due to my own level of disgust, I leave him standing alone in the kitchen… with no bone.
I thought he wanted a rawhide more than anything in the world. All the signs pointed to that. So that is what I attempted to give him—exactly what he ordered. But because his actions contradicted what he said he wanted, he ended up disappointed.
It’s the same thing with your own desires. Maybe you keep asking, and begging and pleading the universe for something, but it’s not showing up. Is that’s the case, ask yourself, “What am I doing to bring this desire to me?” Your job is not to figure out “how” your desire will come to manifestation, but your thoughts and your actions have to work as a team to put you on the right path.
If you sell cars, clean yours up once in a while. If you want your partner to lose weight, what are you doing for your own fitness? If you stand for environmental causes, what are you doing in your own home and in your life to be a shining example? If you want X, show the universe how you’re on the path to being or becoming X. The sooner you feel as though you already have what you desire, you’ll have it.
None of us are perfect, but it’s worth a little check-in to see if there is more you can do to line yourself up with what it is you want.