I used to believe in perfection. I thought that whatever project I worked on or meeting I prepared for had to be laid out in minute detail for it to go well. I did not accept the saying, “done is good enough.” Although I pride myself with good work and quality interactions with others, my non-acceptance of allowing ideas, projects and relationships to unfold and blossom on their accord has left me exhausted, frustrated and stressed.
You see, when we refuse to accept things and people for what they are, we hold a resistance within ourselves. This is especially true with situations. Do you have a family member who is driving you up the wall? Or better yet, a teenager? Anger and frustration are just remnants of our refusal to accept “what is” in the moment. Negative feelings certainly don’t change a situation.
As a matter of fact, they can make the situation even worse. The more we resist what is going on, the more we perpetuate it. Imagine trying to walk up a stream against the current. After a while you’d be pretty exhausted. And you probably wouldn’t get too far. Think about a difficult situation you’re experiencing as the stream…It’s going to float on by no matter what you think of it. If you refuse to accept the stream (situation) for what it is, and you believe your negative emotions towards it will change the outcome, you end up resisting (going upstream) and not getting very far.
If you will accept the situation for what it is, or the person for who he or she is, things have the opportunity to change direction. Your acceptance is not “approving” of the situation or the person per se, but it is allowing the downstream current to naturally shift the direction.
Once you allow this acceptance, it’s easier for you to believe in the possibilities of things going a different way. Now you can set an intention for the way you’d like things to go. Maybe it’s an intention that the difficult person sees things in a new way and is inspired to do things differently. While it’s not our job to run other people’s lives, we do have the power to influence the direction of the stream. When we choose to accept what is (and kindly allow our discord to “just be” with no resistance), we can then believe in improvement. When we focus on the possibilities of improvement, more times than not, things turn out even better than imagined.